Boring Sex Life? Try These Simple Tips To Feel Passion Again
There are numerous reasons why your sex life became boring, but it doesn’t always have to be your fault. People who are in long-term relationships or marriage usually relax too much and stop caring about themselves as much as they did while just dating. Even though it might seem impossible to ignite the passion again after a long time being in a relationship like this, there are things you and your partner can do to spice things up a little bit and feel the passion you felt at the beginning of your relationship. On the other hand, if you’re single, there are things you can do and professionals you can hire with whom you can try some new things.
Change The Way You Initiate Sex With Your Partner
The simplest and most effective way to feel the passion is to change the way you initiate anything kinky with your partner. When sex is planned and it doesn’t happen spontaneously, it’s more likely it won’t happen at all. Married people and people who are in long-term relationships usually plan everything, sex included, which definitely kills passion. There’s nothing sexy about planning intercourse and because you know exactly when it will happen, it won’t be any good. On the other hand, if you surprise your partner and throw a romantic dinner, for example, take her/him for a ride or just start kissing passionately, it’s more likely that there will be a spark of passion right there. If you do something, anything, that your partner doesn’t expect, it will make it a hell of a lot better than when you plan everything out together.
You can also initiate sex in a different location. It doesn’t have to be away from your place, but try initiating sex anywhere except in the bedroom. A change as small as this can bring back passion in a blink of an eye and you’ll definitely feel a lot more confident and satisfied! It’s all about being creative when it comes to sex. Get behind your wife or girlfriend while she’s in the kitchen and start kissing her neck gently and softly while slowly sliding your hand up her thighs. Quickly turn her around and kiss her while lifting her on the kitchen counter. She won’t expect you to do that and exactly because of that, you’ll both feel the passion you haven’t felt in a long time.
Do Unexpected Things For Your Partner
When it comes to this, it doesn’t have to be sex-related at all. Remember the things your partner loved when you started dating and do them without letting your partner know what you’ve planned. This can be dinner at a restaurant, a drive by the countryside, a short trip over the weekend – anything you can think of! The key here is that you shouldn’t expect any kind of sexual gratification when you do this. By doing special things for your partner every now and then, he or she will start doing things for you in the same way. Again, it doesn’t mean that he or she will do something sexual for you right away, but it’s definitely going to happen.
I’ve personally started implementing this some time ago with my partner and I can’t describe how much our sex life has changed after we started surprising each other. I started with making a special dinner once a week for her and after the second week, she was waiting for me to get home from work in sexy lingerie and high heels. I didn’t expect this to work so quickly but it did. I continued doing things for her and expected nothing in return, but got all the things I was hoping for! Before I took the initiative, I felt like we were very close to a divorce, but we only let our jobs and stress take over. Once we started taking care of each other and doing special things for each other, everything was back to the way it was when we were still dating.
Communicate With Your Partner
It’s often said that sex starts way before actual penetration and it’s very true. We all know what it’s like to get home, dead-tired after work, and the last thing you want to do is talk with someone. Talking with your partner shouldn’t feel like a chore, but something you actually want to do. Ask her/him about their day, talk about things that won’t stress you both out but only ask questions you really care about. Asking something just for the sake of it isn’t enough. You have to show genuine interest in your partner and how their day went. Communication is the most important part of a relationship, and if you neglect this part of it, you’re headed down the road of no return.
To be honest, you shouldn’t have even let yourself come to the stage of your relationship where you need to start talking to your partner again. But I won’t judge. I did the exact same thing before and that’s why I mentioned this tip because it really works. One thing you can also do is to send each other a few text messages throughout the day. Even though it’s not actually talking, it’s a great way to remind your partner that you’re thinking about them. You can send funny memes, video clips or even sexts which will definitely ignite the fire again.
Self-Confidence And Fun
The lack of self-confidence is probably the number one reason why couples stop having sex and intimate interactions with each other. It’s amazing how confidence can have such a huge influence on both you and your partner. Think about the things you’re not happy with and why you’re feeling so insecure. It can be your looks, your teeth, or even the feeling of being inferior to your partner. Building self-confidence is no easy task, but it’s a very important thing to do if you want to have a healthy relationship.
If you’re not satisfied with the way you look, go to the gym, start running or even go to a fitness class together. It will benefit both of you and you’ll not only be more satisfied with your body, but you’ll be healthier as well. Just take care of yourself and don’t let yourself neglect your body and mind.
Another thing that’s a real passion-killer in long-term relationships is the lack of fun. Couples usually get so caught around work or the kids that they stop having fun together. When you’re bored, go out for a walk, play games with your partner or just sit and share a bottle of wine together. It’s the small things that will make you feel entertained again but don’t forget that your partner is there with you. You could plan on going to the movies once in every couple of weeks, visit a museum or theatre, or even have a night out with your loved one. There are tons of things you could and should do together, and later, you can also play some kinky sex games that will bring your sex life to a whole other level.
Spicing Up Your Sex Life When You’re Single
If you think that words “single” and “sex life” don’t go together, you’re wrong. In a lot of cases, singles have sex more frequently than couples do, but it’s a lot harder to try out new things and spice it up when you’re single. Fortunately, there are things you can do if one-night stands aren’t as fun as they used to be.
If you want to meet girls, there are tons of online dating sites you can create your account on. It’s a fast, easy and very simple way to meet girls from all over the world. Another fast and easy way is to actually look for an escort near you. If you’re from the UK, London is the place where you’ll find the biggest selection of escorts in all different shapes and sizes. An important thing, if you decide to hire an escort, is to read a few London escort reviews which will give you an insight about the girls you’re interested in.
Hiring an escort is a great way to spice things up, especially if you’re interested in trying some things which you absolutely couldn’t even bring up with a girl or guy you just met. Escorts are usually specialized in certain things and it’s a great way to explore things that could jeopardize your long term relationship. BDSM is one of the most common things people want to try with an escort because it’s still taboo and people are ashamed of feeling sexually aroused by things that aren’t considered “normal”.
No matter if you’re single or in a relationship, there are a lot of things you can do to spice up your sex life. You just need to be creative and have good communication with your partner.
